Tuesday, April 30, 2019

State of my life- April 2019


It seems that we actually spent more than we made this month.  We spent about 115% of what we made.  Not sure why or how that happened but it does explain why we were having to pull from savings so often this month.

One curiosity in our April expenses is the Credit Card bill.  Yes, it’s true that we’re trying to pay it down but we threw 29% of our money towards it this month.  Last month was my bonus month and we allocated 37% income to it.  Typically we seem to run about 15%.

I’m not sure if Dana is going for broke trying to get it paid off once and for all or if she’s channeling dance expenses through it and paying them off as she goes.  I suppose I could ask (may cause trouble) or take a look at the statement myself.  I hope she’s going for broke towards paying it off because if she is, based on the last statement I saw, we should be getting damned close to having it done.

We also had a large hit for a hotel room (Fashion & Leisure) this month due to needing to book ahead for Elissa’s Tampa trip. 

  • 4% Car
  • 1% Entertainment
  • 11% Fashion & Lesure 
  • 22% Food
  • 8% Home Goods
  • 49% Monthly Bills
  • 1% Pets
  • 3% Wellness
  • 1% Education




Other notable spending items:

Electronics (Fashion & Leisure) remained high but we had software for tax to buy, I got a game and a new watch, and Elissa seems to buy some online game just about every day ($60 in apps this month) so that’s where that is going.

Gifts (Fashion & Leisure) was high but it was Elissa’s birthday Month and as far as birthday months go it was on trend with spending for the rest of the family.

Fast food (Food) was higher this month than it’s been all year and I don’t really know why.  I bought breakfast for the family a few mornings and Dana ate a bunch of Jimmy Johns but I also spent more on my daily chips and soda.  No clue how or why it’s more, but it is.

Oddly Restaurants and Groceries (Food) was lower this month than any other.  Those are always really heavy hitters so it’s nice to see them trending downward.  Heck, we even treated Dana’s parents to diner on a few occasions including a $103 tab for her birthday movie as well as $70 on pizza for her class.  I count whatever happened here as a small miracle.

Home improvement (Home Goods) was a little high but that’s due to needing to replace the breaker and a thermostat more than anything else.  All of the other expenses are just odds and ends.

Spa and massage (Wellness) was higher this month than it’s ever been before but drilling into it, it seems to be just a bunch of make-up and shit.  I probably could have classified these charges better.

Most other types of spending seemed to be trending downwards somewhat slightly.  Overall, a pretty good month except for the Hotel and the Credit Cards.


For Diet:

Eh, it is what it is.  Some days are better than others and overall I really do try but I haven’t really been trying this week and my weight hasn’t really changed at all.  I’ve got the record but it’s not really worth it to post a chart.  Just one steady flat line like the EKG of a corpse.


As far as everything else goes:

Well, it’s a mixed bag but it’s all very stressful and full of drama so at least things are constant and normal for us.  The long and short of it is this ---

Elissa got invited to dance for a new company in an environment that looks like it will be overall better for her and also be surrounded by old friends.  There is still paper work to sign and studio spaces to move into so nothing is guaranteed but it looks like it’s happening and it seems to be an overall good opportunity for her.

However, at the place where she’s dancing now she was promoted and yes, that’s good BUT… when her teachers started telling us about the state of her progress I asked some pointed questions about what they were seeing and how they were addressing areas of deficiency and it became fairly obvious that they weren’t really giving her much attention nor working towards some plan towards higher achievement for her.

It was troubling but also enlightening to find out that they’d essentially written her off as a back row core dancer even though she was in their pre-professional program as a student at the same level as most of the others.  Her teachers were also visibly upset when we left the meeting because they hadn’t been able to explain themselves and they knew that they’d essentially talked themselves into a corner and been caught not fulfilling their half of the contract we signed with them.

As for my part, I was very polite and friendly.  Dana was upset but beyond just seeming sad about it all there was no ill words exchanged.

So we kept Elissa out of class for 2 days to sort of work through it all and try to find our bearings.  On Friday, when she went back to class, her teachers fucking withdrew her promotion and basically kicked her out of the company that’s she’d been dancing for, for 2 years.  They also call us into their office to explain to us that, we’d asked too many questions about decisions that they had made and that it was best for her not to dance for them for at least a year.

Well this upset just about everyone and now Dana and the kiddo sort of exist in the constant state of anxiety and depression that also sort of drifts in and out of rage.  Doesn’t make for enjoyable conversation.

So to sum it all up, Elissa was extended a very good dance opportunity by people who respect her talents and want to work with her, the company where she now dances promoted her and then kicked her out within 72 hours of doing so, and everyone is sad and nervous and angry all the time.

But hey, I did finish the guest shower (looks like shit) and got the solar panels mounted on the roof so it hasn’t all been bad… or good… or whatever it is.

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